Few events in life are more painful than the death of a spouse. You are likely to face a wide array of feelings. You may feel angry, frightened, guilty, confused and even relieved. These emotions may come and go, or they may occur simultaneously. Grief is a normal reaction to loss, but it is unique in its impact, course and meaning to each of us. There is no set timetable for grieving. No one can tell you when you will feel better or that in so many months or years you will be able to wake up without your loss being the first thing you think about.