One of my favorite holiday parties in 2023 was the Little Brothers, Friends of the Elderly gathering at St. Ignatius Church on Christmas Day. My spirits were buoyed by the people, servers and guests, who chose to leave their homes in order to share a meal. We who have only lived here for 50 years are still learning from those who have been here longer.

At a time when trust seems to be in short supply, new connections restore my faith in human beings by giving me the opportunity to practice my social skills, to listen, and to give encouragement. When my circle of caring expands, I realize I have something to offer. Loneliness is a huge problem, especially since Covid, in a society that values our efforts to be “independent” rather than our sociability.

Volunteering is the easiest way I know to expand my heart. Since Covid, the number of local volunteers is way down. Think of the potential energy we carry within us! Young people can learn some new skills and interests. Retired folks simply need to get out and do something for someone else. I am grateful to the family that provided music during the Little Brothers dinner.

Relationships hold institutions together, and it’s inevitable that we make mistakes, unintentionally causing pain. Arguments and misunderstandings can bring down entire organizations. Healing the hurts, both the ones we cause and those we suffer, takes courage and faith. It is not easy to say, “Ouch,” when we have taken offense, but it’s the first step in repairing a relationship. When I am oblivious to the pain I have caused, I do not think to apologize. Once I’m aware of my mistake, I can say, “I’m sorry. How can I help?” My usual approach, trying to explain why I goofed, was never effective, and I marvel that I tried it for so long.

I believe the Copper Country is a special place. Whether it’s the weather or the fact that many of us have moved far from our families, something binds us together. We are susceptible, however, to the divisions that we see in the nation and world. Each one of us can help mend the cracks, and working with others for a worthy cause is part of the solution. Not only will we be helping our community, we will become happier ourselves.

Carolyn Peterson

Houghton